Thursday, August 6, 2009

9 wks 2 days u/s: missed abortion

Thank you for all of your supportive and caring comments over the past few days.
We had our ultrasound this morning, and unfortunately, there was no heartbeat. The baby died sometime between last Friday and today.
Our wonderful RE is fitting us in for a D&C later today. Of course, we will have cytogenetics run to see if we can determine what went wrong.
Almost impossible to believe that we got this far only to have heartbreak again. How is it even possible to have five losses in a row? Incomprehensible.
We are shocked and deeply grieving. Please keep us in your thoughts.
Mo
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221 comments:

  1. Dear Mo and Will,
    I am a loss. Your deep grief is our deep grief. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain in the slightest but I know that there is nothing that can do that right now. I am so sorry for your loss. You do not deserve this. You have endured more than your share of pain. Keeping you in our thoughts and sending love.

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  2. I am so very, very sorry. I cannot even imagine the words to say so instead I am sending a huge hug your way. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers....

    Mindy

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  3. Sitting in my car crying for you two as I read this. I'm so sorry. It's such bullshit. So unfair. So horribly unfair. And unbelievable.

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  4. I am so, so sorry.

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  5. My heart is breaking for you. No words can express. I'm so, so, so very sorry. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

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  6. Mo, I am so shocked and so deeply sorry for your loss. I know there are no words but I'm sending you and Will prayers for peace and strength during this time.

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  7. I am so sorry. I will be here for you if you need me. Hugs

    Kami

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  8. Oh I'm so sorry. What terrible news. I know there's no words that can help right now, but please know that you're in my thoughts and wishes.

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  9. I have been reading your blog for a few months and never commented.

    My heart breaks for you. Five losses in a row is incomprehensible. I am so so sorry. Keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

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  10. Oh, Mo and Will, I can hardly type this through the tears. I am so, so sorry. I agree with Murgdan, it's such bullshit and horribly unfair. You guys have been through so much heartbreak. You are definitely in my thoughts.

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  11. I am so sorry for you. I can't express how much I was hoping for you.

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  12. DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE. I KNOW WOMEN WHO HAVE HAD 5/6 LOSSES AND GONE ON TO HAVE THEIR OWN HEALTHY CHILDREN. DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE. GRIEVE AND CRY AND GRIEVE AND CRY AND THEN, TRY TRY AGAIN. THERE IS A PATH LINED UP FOR YOU THAT YOU CANNOT SEE NOW, but when it unfolds as it should, you will be shocked, amazed, and in awe. i'm so fucking sorry you have to go through this.i've been there, and it is a nightmare.

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  13. i am so sorry to hear this. i don't understand the world in which we live when this can happen like this. i'm so sorry.

    thinking about you during this time....

    xoxo

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  14. I'm sorry doesn't even cover what I feel right now. My heart is broken. I had been checking all morning hoping for good news. I am so very sorry.

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  15. I am so, so very sorry. I wish there were a way to make life more fair- you two have been through more than anyone should have to endure. If parenthood were something to be earned, you'd be parents a thousand times over. I hope you can feel some of the love and support that near-strangers send your way. We're here for you.

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  16. Oh no - I'm so so very sorry! This is just so not right! Thinking of both of you, and I wish you peace.

    ((HUGS))

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  17. My heart is just broken for you guys and the pain you are experiencing right now. I am so very sorry that this happened. I wish that ther was something else I could say to help make you feel better, but just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  18. Longtime lurker here coming out of the shadows to share my sorrow for your loss. That absolutely sucks and there's nothing else I can say beyond that. Hang on and know that there are brighter days ahead.

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  19. I know it seems silly to write that I am sorry, like that will help. It fucking sucks.

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  20. Mo & Will, I'm in shock ... I reread your post 3 times thinking I misread. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. This is NOT fair! I know what you mean about wondering how so many losses in a row is possible ... it doesn't make sense. I will keep both of you in my thoughts.

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  21. How heartbreaking! I'm so so sorry. Words can not possibly describe the loss. I hope you get some answers soon. Big Hugs.

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  22. I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I will say a prayer for you, Will, and your little one. XOXO

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  23. I am deeply sorry by this want to echo the others in saying that none of this is fair or makes any sense, but to not give up hope...
    sending you prayers and love.

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  24. I am so very sorry Mo! I was in tears reading this post. I am so heartbroken for you two. You two are in my thoughts.

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  25. Mo and Will - I am so sorry about your loss. This is so unfair. I hate it. You both SO deserve to have the joy you so deeply want. Please know that you're both in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you...please take care.

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  26. Dear Mo and will,
    I came across your blog a couple of months ago and have been reading since then, lurking...and I have never written ever. I have been amazed and inspired by your grace and courage and hope and have been so happy for you after this miracle. I am heartbroken for you today. I am so so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say. I will be thinking of you and praying very hard for a miracle that stays. love Karen

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  27. Oh my god. I can't believe it. I am shocked and heartbroken for you guys. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I know that there is nothing that we can say to make it better, but I do hope that you find some comfort in our words and the support that you find in our comments. I hope that you are able to find some answers with the testing, so at least you will know the "why" behind it all. Big hugs guys. :(

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  28. I am sitting here in tears. In disbelief. This is so hard to believe, to understand, to comprehend. I am so, so sorry for you both. My heart breaks trying to imagine what you're going through right now. I'm just so sorry.

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  29. Oh no, I am so sorry to hear this awful news. I've been following your blog (lurking) and have been holding out the highest of hopes for you two. This is so f-ing unfair.
    Amy

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  30. There are no words. I am so sorry.

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  31. My prayers are with you folks today.

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  32. I am at a loss for words. It is so unfair. Please know that I am thinking about you both and hoping for better days ahead.

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  33. I am so sorry. Thinking of you, cursing the universe on your behalf.

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  34. I can't believe this. I am so sorry. You and your husband will be in our thoughts and prayers.

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  35. Oh god, Mo. I am so very sorry. I just want to rage at the fucking universe. Not fair, not right, and certainly not anything you should have to go through. I am so very sorry. If you need anything - a nice midwestern casserole, a shoulder, a stiff drink, let me know. I'm only a subway ride away. I am so terribly, deeply sorry.

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  36. Oh my goodness, I am sorry sorry, Mo. This is just horrible. Will be thinking & praying for you & Will. :(

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  37. Know so many of us are caring about you both and your strength is evident once again.

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  38. I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you discussed Lovenox with your doctor? Sometimes it helps (and no one knows why) with recurrent loss. I had four losses and then took Lovenox and am now have a successful pregnancy. Good luck.

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  39. oh no no no,
    Mo and Will,
    this is unimaginable, and I simply am stunned. stunned and heartbroken.

    There are so many things that I hate about this that I simply cannot articulate. Please know that I am sending love, and that somehow it can reach you.

    warmly and with such a heavy heart,
    Kate

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  40. Oh no. I am really shocked, and so very sorry. I can't believe you have to go through this again. My husband and I were hoping and praying so hard for you. It is just so unfair, there are no words. Wishing you both strength over the coming days.

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  41. I'm so sorry.
    I've been following your story, and hearing this just makes me so mad. :(

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  42. Oh, no no no. I am shocked and so so sorry. And completely at a loss for words. Thinking of you both.

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  43. I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you

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  44. I just don't know what to say.

    I'm truly sorry and very saddened for you both.

    Mind each other.

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  45. My heart is broken for you and will. Prayers being sent your way.

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  46. Oh my gosh ... I am so sorry.

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  47. Oh no. I'm so, so sorry. This just brings tears to my eyes! I'm holding you both in my heart and thoughts.

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  48. Mo, I just don't even know what to say...I'm heartbroken. I am so, so sorry. But please try not to lose hope...friends of my cousin just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, their sixth pregnancy but their first live baby. Like you, they endured five losses, including a loss at birth due to a prolapsed cord. It can be done, and I am so hoping it will happen for you, too. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

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  49. Oh Mo and Will.
    I saw your update come up on my blogroll and I happily clicked and did not expect this. I let out a gasp and shared with my husband and our hearts break for you.
    There are no words. I feel stupid for quoting Rent lyrics for days to you...stupid stupid stupid.
    I wish I had something to say that was useful, but I'll keep it at how deeply sorry I am for you.

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  50. I am so sorry for your loss. Reading your post has made my stomach sink. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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  51. I am so, so sorry. I have kept your family in my thoughts and prayers. I am crying for you. I wish there were something I could do.

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  52. I am so very sorry... My heart is just reeling for you. Prayers and hugs from Pennsylvania right now...

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  53. I am so sorry for you both, my heart is breaking into a million pieces for you.

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  54. Mo and Will,
    I am so sorry and my heart aches for you. You are in my thoughts and wishes...

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  55. Oh my god. I am so sorry. This is so fucking unfair.

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  56. There are no words, I am simply abiding with you both. I will keep you in my thoughts today and in the days to come.

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  57. I can't tell you how much I wish that you had gotten other news today.

    I know that your grief must be tremendous, and I only wish that we, your online friends, could shoulder a tiny piece of it for you.

    Thinking of you with love,
    Elle

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  58. Goosebumps.

    I'm so sorry. Very, very, sorry.

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  59. I have been reading your blog for a few months and this is my first comment. I am so sorry for you both, I have been there, so I know your grief. You are in my prayers

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  60. I'm so sorry to hear this, Mo & Will. I'm just devastated for you.

    cm

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  61. i am just so sorry. this is awful news. it's just so unfair and too much for one amazing couple to bear all this. you are in my thoughts and i am sending as much support as i can muster your way.

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  62. Mo this is beyond anything I can imagine.
    I am deeply sorry.
    Holding you both in my thoughts and sending healing prayers.

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  63. No, No, No, NOOOOO.
    Both of you in my thoughts and prayers:(.

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  64. Oh Mo, I am so, so sorry. My heart is breaking for you and Will. I wish that there was more I could do or say.

    I am so sorry and I will be thinking of you guys.

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  65. I am so, so very sad right now. I am really so shocked and sorry. My own heart stopped for a minute when I read this.

    I wish you lots of strength to get through this together.

    Cam

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  66. Oh Mo, my heart just broke for you.

    I am so deeply saddened for you.

    With thoughts and prayers for your well being,

    Cheryl

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  67. My heart is shattered. I am so sorry.

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  68. Words cannot express how sorry I am. I lost my last baby at 10 weeks and I know that nothing that anyone can say will help you right now, but just know how many of us out in the blogging world are keeping you both in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time.

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  69. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  70. I am so so so very sorry. I was hoping so very much that this would be the one. Five miscarriages would seem insurmountable, but I know the two of you can do it. Take things day by day, or minute by minute if necessary. You will be kept closely in my hopes and prayers.

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  71. I am so, so sorry. Hugs to you both.

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  72. Shedding tears for you both. I am so very sorry. There really are no words...

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  73. You are both in our prayers. I wish I could say something more.

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  74. I've been following for a while now but haven't commented. Delurking to tell you how heartbroken I am for you that this pregnancy wasn't the one to bring you the joy that you so deserve. I am sad with you both- keeping you in my heart with hope.

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  75. Wish there was some way I could come up with something to say besides I'm sorry, but I truly am so very sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you must be feeling right now. Take care of yourself.

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  76. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are so brave and so strong. You have been through so much and I wish only the very best for you.

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  77. I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

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  78. I'm so, so very sorry for your loss.

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  79. I am here via Murgdan. My heart is aching for your loss. I am so terribly sorry. Two people should not have to endure this.

    You are in my prayers.

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  80. Dear Mo and Will, I am so very sorry for your loss. No words can help, but know that you are held lovingly in the thoughts of many.

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  81. I am so very sorry.

    The universe definitely doesn't dole out the bad luck in equal portions. Randomly perhaps, but you have far more than your share.

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  82. Oh, Mo and Will. I am so very very sorry for your huge loss. I cannot imagine the feelings you have. After our third miscarriage I felt like the whole world was crashing down... I am trying so hard from the other coast to lift some of that burden for you. I hope you can feel all the love and comfort I am sending you.

    You do not deserve this and it is so far from fair. I hate it.

    Sending PEACE and love.

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  83. I can't believe lighting has struck yet again. What shitty luck!
    I really hope that someone can give you a concrete answer as to why this is happening again and again, as well as some solution as to how you can stop it from happening when you get pregnant again.
    I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.

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  84. I am so very sorry. I just don't understand why things like this happen to such wonderful people. You will both be in my thoughts.

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  85. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's just so unfair! My heart and soul goes out to you at this time.

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  86. Thinking of you. I'm so very sorry.

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  87. Mo and Will- i am so very very sorry. I will be saying prayers for you guys. {{HUGS}}

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  88. I am so so so sorry. I was so not expecting this. Hugs. I wish I had a magic wand.

    Prayers for you

    Jacky from MD

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  89. Mo and Will, I am thinking of you both. I just can't believe it. I'm so dreadfully sorry.

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  90. I am so very sorry to read this news. My heart aches for you.

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  91. dear mo and will-
    delurking to say i am so, so, so very sorry for your loss. i can't quite find the right words. just hold on tight to each other. you are an amazing couple. keeping you both in my thoughts...
    maria

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  92. Mo & Will, this is just the saddest, most incomprehensible news, especially after all of the other losses you have endured. I'm holding you both in my thoughts.

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  93. You don't know me, but I've been lurking around your blog for a while. I wanted to let you know how deeply sorry I am for your loss. I cannot imagine the grief you are feeling. Please know that you are heavy on my mind and you are in my prayers.

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  94. Im so, so sorry Mo....lots of virtual hugs.

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  95. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. So very sorry.

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  96. I am so so sorry. You simply do not deserve this. You both don't. I wish so much you were not suffering this loss. L

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  97. I am so very sorry. I'll be saying prayers for you and for your baby.

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  98. I am so very sorry - there are no other words. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  99. Came via Meinsideout. I'm SO sorry. Your pain resonates deeply with me. I know how dark today feels. I wish something would take the pain away but I knwo nothing does. Please know you're in my thoughts.

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  100. Oh God, I am so very sorry. My heart is just breaking for you. If you haven't had it checked, get your clotting factors checked. That's is what caused my final loss.

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  101. I tried to comment earlier today but I didn't know what to say. Seeing your post took my breath away and I know that nothing I can say will make it better. But you are both in my thoughts with prayers for whatever it is you need right this moment. And for eventual healing. I agree with others who have said this is just not fair. I am so very sorry.

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  102. I am SO sorry. This fucking sucks. I hate that it had to happen to you.

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  103. What a blow - I'm trying to imagine what you're going through and I simply cannot. I've been quietly following your story for a few months now. This reminds me of some horrible tragic fiction or movie; all the elements are there. I hope you can somehow find the answers you're looking for, and (eventually) the outcome you deserve. All the best moving forward.

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  104. OMG OMG OMG!!!! I do not even know what to say. I am crying for you...really!! I thought for sure you had made it and this was your time! I know that doesn't help and nothing I say will...I am just so so so sorry! If there is anything I can do please let me know.

    That is just so unfair!!!!

    Many, many hugs and thoughts and prayers!!!!

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  105. I wish I had something better to offer than to say I am so sorry for your loss...

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  106. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are both in my thoughts.

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  107. This breaks my heart. You're in my thoughts. Best to you and Will in your healing from all of this.

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  108. I have been following your blog for some time. I am so sorry for your loss. I think it is safe to say, the blog world is thinking about you during this heartbreaking time.

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  109. I am so incredibly sorry. My heart is with you tonight.

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  110. My heart sank into my stomach as I read this news. It is beyond unfair and f*ed up.
    Having had my share of miscarriages I know the feeling of dread, the questioning how this happened and why, and the worrying for the future and you just don't deserve any of it (no one ever does).
    I hope that the outpouring of support bolsters you during this time.

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  111. My heart is breaking, Mo. I'm so very, very sorry.

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  112. I've been a lurker for the last little while and I'm just so sad to hear this news. I'm sorry that you are going through this. My thoughts are with you and your hubby.

    {HUGS}

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  113. Sweet Jesus this is incomprehensible news. I am so, so sorry. My heart is broken for you both. There are no words but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  114. Oh Mo, I'm so incredibly sorry.

    I just HATE miscarriage! It's soooo unfair, especially after IVF, especially repeatedly. I'm right there with you. It's just mindboggling that you can get soooo far and then have it all fall apart.

    My heart goes out to you, and I will be very interested in what the genetics says. I've had three losses now, and they still can't pinpoint the problem.

    Many, many hugs.

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  115. Dear Mo and Will

    I am so sorry for your loss, I wish there was something that I could say but there arent any words. Keeping you in my thoughts and prays

    Take care of each other.

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  116. I am so very sorry for your loss.

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  117. I am so very sorry for your loss.
    My heart breaks for both of you.
    This is not fair.

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  118. I am so very sorry for loss and know there are no words that will make things better. Sending you love & strength.

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  119. Sorry just doesn't seem enough. My heart is breaking for the two of you, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  120. I am so sorry for your loss and your grief and your pain. This is so unfair and heartbreaking. I am keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers tonight.

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  121. I'm so sorry!!!! As an RPL survivor myself, I truly understand your devastation!
    (((hugs)))

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  122. I am so so sorry for your loss.
    Praying for you.

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  123. Hi i came here via another blog and wnated to tell you how sorry i was to read your news. I too have lost a few precious bubs after IVF. I'm up to my 6th cycle now.
    Sorry if you've mentioned this before as i've yet to read you blog but I wanted to let you know that my misscarriages were found to be a result of a clotting disorder. I had testing for them done after one of the losses and we also did the chromosomal screenings, so yeah maybe it's worth being tested for clotting disorders if you haven't already.
    I hope you get your BFP+Live birth realy soon. Luck!

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  124. Dear Mo & Will, I was shocked and heartbroken to see this news. I've been following your blog for a while & was happily crying to hear of your pregnancy...I can't even express how sorry I am that this happened to you. You both are in my thoughts & prayers.

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  125. There are no words to express how sorry I am about this news. Know that many people are sending you strength and comfort, and keeping you in their prayers.

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  126. Mo, Will, Fuck. Just fuck. I am so sorry.

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  127. Mo & Will,

    I'm sorry just doesn't cut it in this situation. This is so darn unfair and I'll never understand why such wonderful people have to continually endure such pain. I will be keeping you both in my prayers.

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  128. OMG. No. No no no no no. It cannot be. Oh Mo, Will, I am so terribly, terribly sorry to hear of your loss. I sit here and cry tears of grief alongside you and please know that you are in my thoughts today. I am in shock for you both. Sending you lots of love as you deal with this, and healing thoughts as you go through it all.

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  129. Once again, I cried. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  130. De-lurking to say I am so, so sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts and intentions. Love to you from the west coast,
    Elizabeth

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  131. I am so sorry that you have to keep going through this pain! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband!

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  132. I am so very sorry...thinking about you and sending love.

    xoxo

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  133. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are definitely in my prayers.

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  134. Oh Mo, this is such awful news. My heart just breaks for you both. I can't believe the universe has dealt you yet another crappy hand. Hold each other close now. I am praying for you.

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  136. I am so sorry. I too was hoping this was the beginning of a better story for you and Will. Good luck.

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  137. No no no no...is all I can say. My heart weeps for you.

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  139. I am so, so very sorry. You are in my thoughts.

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  140. So sorry! My heart cries out for you both! {HUGS}

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  141. My hearts breaks for you. I have no idea how you must be feeling, but I can only imagine. It brings tears to my eyes and I am truly sad. I don't understand why these things happen. I will keep you both in my prayers.

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  142. I am so, so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  143. I don't know what to say except I'm so so sorry. This isn't right. My heart breaks for you.

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  144. *Hugs* I'll be thinking about and praying for you both.

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  145. Dear Will and Mo,
    I'm sorry to hear about this devastating loss. My heart breaks for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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  146. Here through another Stirrup Queens blogger.

    I'm so, so very sorry. Maybe one more comment doesn't make much of a difference in the enormity of this pain, but there are many of us grieving with and for you.

    Peace to you. Somehow.

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  147. My heart is aching for you. I am just so very sorry.

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  148. Nothing I can say will make you feel better...so I just want you to know that you are in my thoughts!!

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  149. Crying for you. This is just so unfair. Holding you both in my thoughts.

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  150. I am so very sorry for your loss and the grief that accompanies it. Sending thoughts and hugs.

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  151. Oh mo and will, I am so so sorry. You are absolutly in my thoughts.

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  152. No.

    I'm so sorry...I can't believe this...I'm just crushed for you :(

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  153. I am so sorry for all of your sorrow. You are in my prayers.
    May God hold you up during this horrific tradgedy.

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  154. oh, i'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. thinking of you both...

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  155. So sorry to hear about your angel.

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  156. I am so sorry you're facing this heartbreak. I hope that today went as well as it could and that you find comfort.

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  157. I have no words. I am deeply, deeply saddened by this news.

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  158. Oh, my God. Nononononono.....

    I'm so shocked and saddened for you both. I would choke someone for you if I could.

    Thinking of you both, wishing you strength and peace.

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  159. I am so very, very sorry. This is just too unfair.

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  160. Oh no. Noo no no. I'm so very sorry. So sorry. Please be gentle with yourself. I am thinking of you.

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  161. I'm so, so sorry... my heart is aching for you. Even in the hell that is infertility, recurrent miscarrying brings a pain like no other. I am so sorry.

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  162. I'm so sorry. There are no words.

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  163. So so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through. You're both in my thoughts on this heartbreaking day.

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  164. I am so sorry for you loss! Take care of yourself.

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  165. I'm so very very sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts.

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  166. Mo,

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My husband and I recently experienced the same thing at 8w5d, after our 2nd round of IVF. I'm curious to know if you have ever had the genetic testing done with your previous miscarriages and if so, if they were conslusive? We are faced with making a decision about whether or not we want to have the testing done and today we found out our insurance company will not cover any of the cost. I'm wondering if it's worth spending the money. Any help you could provide would be appreciated.

    Thank you,
    Nicole
    ngcrowell@gmail.com

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  167. Oh Mo & Will, words are never enough to express how very sorry I am for your loss...Makes tears come to my eyes as I shake my head and think how wrong this is again, just plain wrong...So Sorry...

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  168. Awwwww... cr@p. I am so, so sorry. I really hoped this would be the lucky one for you. Big (((hugs))) to you both. :(

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  169. Nicole, I sent you an email too, but I'll post here in case it's helpful to anyone else as well.

    First of all, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

    We have found testing to be very helpful, both emotionally and informationally. We have had three prior losses genetically tested. Two of those were due to chromosomal abnormalities. Unfortunately, the third sample was accidentally discarded by the lab and so went untested (and after an unanesthetized D&C too - ARRGH!). Our fourth loss was a chemical pregnancy and so was too early to test. It has helped us a great deal to have a "reason" for the losses, and it has also helped to be able to give the information to a genetics counselor to try to determine how to proceed with IVF, etc., and what our risk of future loss might be.

    After our third loss, we also underwent recurrent miscarriage testing to look for autoimmune issues, blood clotting issues, or chromosomal issues that Will or I might have that could be contributing to our losses. nothing was found, but I would recommend this testing if you find yourself (oh,I really hope you don't!) in the unfortunate situation of having a repeat of this situation. Luck is on your side. For most people, miscarriage is a one-time awfulness.

    It truly stinks that your insurance won't pay for the testing. I don't know how much it costs, but if you can afford it, I'd recommend it as we were definitely glad we got it. Perhaps your doctor can come up with some "reason" that might give more weight to your request? Just an idea.

    I hope this helps a bit. You're in our thoughts. Good luck. Please keep us posted on what you decide to do. We'll be thinking of you.

    Mo (and Will)

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  170. Mo, Will, I am so sorry to read your bad news. I know, sadly, that you have much experience in this realm and I am sad to think of you grieving yet again. I had really thought this might be your stroke of luck.

    I hope you will be able to take gentle care of yourselves and each other.

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  171. I'm so sorry. So incredibly sorry.

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  172. Words cannot even express how deeply sorry I am for the both of you.

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  173. Oh no, oh no, I'm so, so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  174. Dear Mo and Will, I am at a complete loss of words.

    I really cannot believe that God was so cruel on you. I want you to know that whatever is ahead, you will need all the strength and companionship of one another to get through with it. Also, I hope that the doctors can find out solid clues about what is SOOOO wrong. I was so happy when the pregnancy had happened and I was so hoping that it would last.

    The loss is too great.

    Keeping you in my prayers. Keeping your babies in my prayers.

    Please take care.

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  175. I'm so sorry! Please know I am holding you both close to my heart. Sending you so much peace and love.
    *HUGS*

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  176. Mo and Will,

    I am so so sorry for your loss, my heart is breaking for you. I've been following your blog for a while now (just before this pg started) and I was really hoping this was for it for you. You are both so strong. You have so much love.

    Thinking of you both and sending lots of love and prayers.

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  177. I am so terribly sorry to hear about your loss. Words can't fully capture how much this just sucks. I'm just so sorry.

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  178. Saw your comment on Sprog's post. Still thinking of you.

    Many hugs.

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  179. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  180. I am truly sorry. You do not deserve this.

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  181. oh mo and will, I am so very sorry for your loss. holding you in my thoughts.

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  182. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish it wasn't this way. Thinking of you both.

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  183. Your blog has helped me through some dark moments in my own infertility. I am so sorry to hear your news. You are in my thoughts.

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  184. You all are so in my thoughts. All my love. I'm so sorry.

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  185. Dear Mo,
    I came across your blog and wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I also lost several babies in very early miscarriages and even now, years later, feel sad when I think about them and what might have been.
    We did go on to have bio kids and are now in process of adopting two more.
    Best wishes,
    Marni

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  186. Words are not enough, but I am so very sorry. The universe can be so cruel. You are both in my thoughts.

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  187. I just recently started following your blog. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are experiencing. There are no words. You are both in my thoughts.

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  188. I am so sorry for your loss, the pain of so many miscarriages is just devastating. Wishing you strength!

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  189. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts today.

    Tanika

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  190. I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Just know a stranger is mourning with you.

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